Things My Mother Didn't Teach me... Starting out with the Basics

Here's a little back story that some of you might not know... My parents divorced when I was ten. After that, I kinda got passed around from place to place, so I learned to take care of myself. I pretty much raised myself and taught myself about life; I guess you could say some vital, nurturing things were lacking in my life. I've tried to make up for it, but in the end, I ended up making some pretty expensive mistakes that I wish someone had warned me about and also wasted time on other projects that I hadn't thought through. I always wished that someone was there to play a mentor to me along the way, so in this new series I'm going to share with you things that I've learned the hard way and others that I've mastered and can share with you! 

While painting my toenails this weekend, --yes, I've learned a lot about that, too-- I starting thinking about things... If I were to start over tomorrow-- not having anything that I'd bought or collected over the last few years in my place, where would I start? Here are a few of the basic necessities that I would recommend to anybody starting a new life, new home, or even just looking to start over.


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A good pan set. I use mine all the time, especially when family comes to visit. A good stainless steel set will last you for a long time, if you take care of it. You can get this set from Target for $130. Which is great for a 10 pc set. That's one thing no one ever told me. Pan sets can get exxxxpensive! It's worth it.

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Basic White China. I actually love to mismatch my china and by keeping it a basic color, You can get different styles, but they'll all be cohesive because they're white. You can do the same thing with silverware-- different styles, yet they're all silver. You could even paint the handles the same color to bring them together.

Living Room: 

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A neutral couch. Let me rephrase that. A neutral, comfy couch. I love my couch, don't get me wrong, but I wish I had thought about it a lot more before buying white leather. It's great, it's durable, but I stick to it and it's awkward when trying to cuddle. It'll last for now, and I only paid $150 for it, but I wish I had thought it through ALOT more before jumping on it. Remember my dream home?? Yes. Exactly what I'd want now...
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A TV. Ok, ok, as much as I hate to say it... A TV is vital in my house at the moment. Since I live alone and don't always have people over, the TV has definitely stepped in to keep loneliness at bay. Although, it can be a bad bad with the design of a room. I have an old 1980's big box screen TV.


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A bed. And a good one. I've had the same mattress since I was a teen, however, I recently was gifted a pillow top mattress from a friend who was getting a new mattress... and BOY can I tell you what a difference it has made in my life! I absolutely love it and have never slept better. However, you don't necessarily HAVE to have a headboard and frame. I mean.... this is all you need!

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Also to go on that bed... neutral, good quality bedding. Once again... go for quality over style any day. 

These are pretty much my basics. From these, you can build and layer and accessorize however you want, with some caution, of course. Next in this lesson? Building comfort on those basic necessities and some cleaning tips... Cause boy. I can always use cleaning tips.

What are some of your basics?? What are some things that you'd like to learn more about?? What would you take if you started over?


Ms. Givens said...

I agree with you on all of this.
I wish young ones didnt have to learn things the hard way.
I would add a bedrrom set to this list. One that you can use for the rest of your life.

AquĆ­ said...

totally hear ya on the tv thing. I'm soo busy that I never have time to watch tv but I still like to turn it on sometimes just for background noise. Great tips! I've been living in furnished apartments for the past year since I travel so much, one day I'll have my own couch and china I hope :)

Amanda Hill said...


Love this post doll! So much great info, I agree whole heartedly :) xoxo.